Sometimes, ok many times, she could be loud.
She rolled her eyes and twirled her neck. Often.
Her behavior was everyone else’s fault, never hers.
But as the school year progressed, she changed.
Was she perfect? By, no means.
Did I require perfection from her?
No, why should I?
But I observed waaaaay less yelling, bullying, eye rolling and neck twirling.
|In my End-of-the-Year card! 🙂|
I never yelled at her.
I talked to her, not “at” her.
I listened to her.
I would allow her to lead.
Let her use her voice for good.
I resisted the power struggle.
Had to, because sometimes she would take me there.:)
And we grew together throughout the school year.
We grew to understand each other.
She knew I “didn’t play”, but I loved her anyway.
She knew to grab that Ipad, set the timer for 5 minutes, and go to the buddy classroom because I needed a timeout. 🙂
I learned there was a girl who needed to know she was more than a loud, bullying, eye-rolling, neck twirling child.
We built a relationship.
As the school year ended, I chose her to be the mayor at JA Biztown.
She was amazing!
Everything ran smoothly, she gave her speech to the “citizens.”
I was so proud. What a leader!
But here’s the thing with the “bad” kid.
Some educators don’t want to let go of the label that has followed that student for years.
“I can’t believe out of all the kids in your room, you chose her to be the mayor!”
I have this pesky habit of believing in the “bad” kid, just as I believe in all my kids.
I believe in giving kids a fresh start, and not believing the hype that follows them.
I believe educators should stop chasing down the previous teachers to get the “scoop” on a child and then continue to treat that child the same way they were the previous year.
Thre’s no magic wand to change a child.
And sometimes, what is tried, fails.
This year, give the “bad” kid a chance to be viewed as good, or at least as worthy as everyone else.